Understanding why you feel what you feel in relationships.
I'm Anna, a psychologist. I help couples and individuals see the nervous-system pattern underneath the fight, so you can catch it before it takes over the whole evening.
You love each other and still end up in the same argument. The topic changes every time, the ending doesn't.
Book a free intro callAnxiety before hard conversations, or a self-doubt that has been following you for years.
Book a free intro callYou know how the evening goes.
It starts with something small, the dishes or a tone of voice, and ten minutes later one of you is talking faster and louder while the other has gone somewhere far away behind their eyes, and by the time you're both in bed nothing has been solved and neither of you can sleep.
The next morning you're polite with each other. Two weeks later it happens again.
You've probably tried talking it through, maybe read the books. It keeps happening anyway, and that's the part that wears people down.
In the middle of a fight, your body is in protection mode.
One partner's system pushes for contact and gets louder; the other protects itself by pulling back. Both learned this long before you met.
From that state, good advice is hard to reach. So we start where the fight starts: in the body, a few seconds before the words.
"The two of you against the pattern, instead of against each other."
What happens after you book
Three steps, and you can stop after the first one.
Free intro call, 25 minutes
You tell me about your pattern, I tell you honestly whether I think I can help, and either of us can say no.
Mapping the pattern
In the first sessions we look at what happens in each of you before the argument takes off: where you feel it, what you do next, and what that reaction is protecting.
Working on the pattern and practicing between sessions
You leave with one or two small things to try at home, for the middle of a fight and for the repair afterwards. Next time we look at what happened.
Fight Better Tonight
Five things to try before the next hard evening. One page with the practices I recommend most, for the middle of a fight and for the repair afterwards.
Send me the guideThe 10-second reset,
for the moment you're about to lose it
The body question:
one sentence that interrupts almost any fight
The bathroom break:
cold water, legs up the wall, or twenty jumps
The repair recipe:
what to actually say afterwards
The 9 pm rule:
why your worst fights happen at night
I'm Anna.
I work with individuals and couples, in English and Russian, and my focus is the nervous-system layer underneath behaviour: what gets set off in you and why, and how that shifts once you can see it happening.
I'm at the start of my private practice. That's why sessions cost less through 2026.
My training: Advanced Diploma in Psychology (Psychodemia, 2026), ACT certification (Psychodemia, 2026). My work is shaped by somatic approaches, NARM and Emotionally Focused Therapy, and formal training in those comes next.
Sessions
Your first call is free: 25 minutes, no obligation.
Couples session · 55 min
Founding-client rate through 2026.
Individual session · 55 min
Founding-client rate through 2026.
Before you book
Do we both have to come?
It helps, but it isn't a condition. Some people start on their own, and sometimes I also see each partner separately.
My partner doesn't want to come. Does it still make sense?
Yes. When you change your side of the pattern, the pattern between you changes too.
Are you a therapist?
No. I'm a psychologist working with psychological and relationship patterns. For psychiatric diagnoses or a crisis, please see a licensed professional.
Does this work online?
Sessions happen by video call. You can join together from one screen or from two places.
How many sessions will we need?
That depends on your pattern. After the intro call I'll tell you what I'd suggest, and you decide.
What I work with, and what falls outside my scope
I work with
- Anxiety and constant worry
- Self-esteem and confidence
- Emotional resilience and stability
- Values and a sense of direction
- Relationship difficulties and repeating patterns
I work with adults only (18 and over).
I don't work with
- Psychiatric diagnoses that need medical treatment, such as bipolar disorder, schizophrenia or personality disorders
- Acute crisis or emergencies
- Children and teenagers under 18
Not sure whether your situation fits? Send me a message and we'll work it out together.
If you read this and thought of last Tuesday, let's talk.
25 minutes, free, and afterwards you'll know whether this is for you.